“Man must evolve for all human conflict, a method, which rejects revenge, aggression, and retaliation.
The foundation of such a method is love. I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word in reality.”
Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
The Love-Based Leader
ENDORSEMENTS
“James Roswell Quinn is Omni-Effective. He gets you to think, act, and change your life, and make it instantly better.”
Mark Victor Hansen
Co-Creator, Chicken Soup For The Soul
“The Love-Based Leader is a real WINNER! The great real-life stories make it a page-turner reference tool for joyful living! Quinn is bringing LOVE to a stressed-out world. TERRIFIC!”
Ed Foreman
U. S. Congressman from Texas and New Mexico
The first person elected to the U.S. Congress from two different states in 100 years.
"Learning to lead should be the focus for every successful business person. The ideas and examples in The Love-Based Leader provide a thoughtful approach on how to skillfully navigate an organization in the 21st century."
Dr. Nido Qubein
President, High Point University
Chairman, Great Harvest Bread
President, National Speakers Association
“Disney rarely brings in outside speakers and trainers. I am glad we decided to have Quinn run his Love-Based Leader workshop. Not only did everyone love the presentation, there have been noticeable changes in how people are solving problems. This was valuable.”
Joe Ranft
Walt Disney Feature Animation and Pixar
CREDITS: Finding Nemo, Cars, Toy Story, The Lion King, Monsters Inc., Beauty & The Beast, A Bugs Life, The Little Mermaid, The Incredibles, and more.
“Today’s workplace poses challenging situations. Quinn’s message on Love- Based Leadership, and recognizing the positive attributes within each of us, was inspiring and will contribute to a more balanced and constructive approach in the management of people and projects.”
Jean-Pierre St-Amand
President, Real Property Institute of Canada
“I have spoken to hundreds of Fortune 500 Companies. James Roswell Quinn is genuine, engaging, relevant and compassionate. He brings 100 years of wisdom and experience to the table. Quinn is a pro...a jaw dropper."
Brian Holloway
Vice-President of the NFL Player’s Association
Captain of the New England Patriots 1985 Super Bowl Team
“Clear, powerful, memorable and inspirational. The Love-Based Leader delivers insightful ideas and provides the action steps to put them to work. If you want to take your life and your business to the next level, this book is your launching pad for extraordinary results. Fantastic!”
Rich Fettke
Author of the best selling book, Extreme Success
The Reason Most People Do Not Forgive:
“If I forgive you for what you did, it implies what you did was OK. Since what you did was not OK, I will not forgive you.”
Their Daughter Was Murdered
She was the kind of daughter parents dream of. She was talented, lovely, athletic, intelligent, joyful, and full of dreams for her life. Then one day, tragically, she was brutally murdered.
Her parents died more than a little bit that day. In an attempt to cope, they turned her bedroom into a shrine filled with photographs, trophies, newspaper articles, art projects, and other memorabilia. Unfortunately, this monument served only to intensify their grief.
Months passed, and the more they focused on their loss, the worse their grief became. But a few months later, the girl’s mother had a startling insight.
She asked her husband, “If we’d raised a son who could have done such a thing to another person, just imagine the pain we’d be going through.” Unbelievably, she and her husband went to the parents of their daughter’s killer to help them deal with their own grief and shame.
The deceased girl’s mother created a healing connection with people whom most of us would have resented, avoided, or even attacked. She even influenced her husband to participate.
Realizing they could not change their circumstance, and unwilling to forgive the man who killed their daughter, these people instead found peace by choosing to create a circumstance in which they could be loving and giving. What a powerful and beautiful legacy for their daughter.
You may not agree with their decision. But you have to agree that it took courage.
We may have no control over our circumstances. But we do have control over ourselves and how we handle those circumstances. By their nature, Love-Based Leaders do not follow the crowd. They find a course of action that works, regardless of what most people would do. Some people would call that the mark of greatness.
Four E’s of Excellence
ETHICS - ENTHUSIASM - EVALUATION - EMPATHY
Present in all truly effective personal and professional relationships,
these elements could also be defined as vision, joy, determination,
and compassion. Regardless of the names we assign, self-control is
needed to demonstrate them in the face of negative circumstances.
When you become aware of your negative Fear-Based Reactions,
it becomes easier to see how you are attempting to control others
with actual or implied Position-Power. With that awareness, you
will be empowered to utilize the tools in my book,
THE LOVE-BASED LEADER,
to change your life and your results.
Instead of focusing on what others are doing wrong, learn to use
‘Four E’s of Excellence’ to take responsibility for yourself. Your
impact will be greatly enhanced as you experience the power of
living your life as a Love-Based Leader. It is worth the effort.
Excellence is the Art of Self-Control
From:
The Love-Based Leader
The Green Beret
Many years ago, there was a police officer in my class who literally had no fears. Officer ‘Smith’, a former Green Beret, was a member of his department’s S.W.A.T. team. He could not relate to any Fear-Based discussions, except from the position of being able to see how other people reacted to him because of their fears.
Officer Smith told us of his dream to become a Secret Service Agent. In fact, everything in his life had been geared to that one goal for as long as he could remember.
Unfortunately, his dream was destroyed by a single event. One night, while still in the army, he got in a bar fight because someone whistled at his date. It turned into a ‘Rambo’ situation, with him ending up fighting the whole bar, and beating up several men. After his arrest he found out that he had lost his security clearance, and his dream was now gone. There was no chance he could ever become a Secret Service Agent.
When he finished telling this story, I took a breath and said, “So basically, what you are telling me is that you are a weakling. You have no power, and it’s probably a good thing that you didn’t become a Secret Service Agent.”
I could see his rage building as I continued, “Let me get this straight. A guy did something you didn’t like, so you had to make him pay for it. Let’s see now, he spent an evening at the hospital, and you lost your dream. Who do you think paid the higher price? Who really lost?”
“They hurt your feelings, your pride, and your ego
for a minute. By reacting with rage,
you hurt yourself for a lifetime.”
His jaw slackened and he just looked at me. I continued, “You lost. You were beaten by sound waves. What a wimp.” I have never been the type of person to quit when I was ahead.
I was slowly backing up at that point because I was pretty sure I would get a reaction. But he just smiled and said, “I understand. I think I’m getting it now. I’ve arrested people who’ve thrown their lives away because someone else made them mad. I always wondered how they could be so blind. Yet, I did exactly the same thing.”
I smiled and breathed a sigh of relief. He smiled again and said, “You are the first person who has ever called me a name like that and walked away.” I was truly grateful he understood what I was talking about. Had he attacked me, our fight would have been a joke. While he probably knew dozens of ways of killing someone, I have never even been in a fistfight … not even once.
